The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

 

在小紅書一個教英文的KOL介紹, 看書名已經很特別. 我以為圖書館沒有, 但, 他的兩本著作也有. 

前一本寫很多粗口, 只是要回應書名, 做人不可以什麼都管, 太意真. 後一半就少了很多粗口, 正常了. 

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Giving too many fucks is bad for your mental health. It causes you to become overly attached to the superficial and fake, to dedicate your life to chasing a mirage of happiness and satisfaction. The key to a good life is not giving a fuck about more; it’s giving a fuck about less, giving a fuck about only what is true and immediate and important.

You’re so worried about doing the right thing all the time that you become worried about how much you’re worrying. Or you feel so guilty for every mistake you make that you begin to feel guilty about how guilty you’re feeling.

The rich suffer because of their riches. The poor suffer because of their poverty…

有錢人與窮人一樣多煩惱. 

The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.

有點玄. 

You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.

應該隨心, 不要自尋煩惱. 

The subtle are of not giving a fuck

1.      Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.

2.      To not give a fuck about adversity, you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity.

3. Whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give a fuck about.

Life is essentially an endless series of problem.

Choose your struggle

What do you want out of life?

“I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like” Your response is so common and expected that it doesn’t really mean anything.

Everybody wants that. It’s easy to want that.

What pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for?

這一個很叫人深思. 人人想有錢, 家庭美滿.但, 我們可以承受什麼的痛苦呢?  

我認真想了一會. 病痛, 親人離世是很難接受. 應該是孤單與窮吧. 不過, 如果可以承受, 又怎算是痛苦? 

Happiness requires struggle. It grows from problems. Joy doesn’t just sprout out of the ground like daisies and rainbows.

簡單的快樂, 不用很費力. 靜心看雲看雨聽濤都很快樂. 

I was in love with the result… wasn’t in love with the process. And because of that, I failed at it.

Who you are is defined by what you’re willing to struggle for. People who enjoy the struggles of a gym are the ones who run triathlons and have chiseled abs and can benchpress a small house. People who enjoy long workweeks and the politics of the corporate ladder are the ones who fly to the top of it.

Some examples of good, health values: honesty, innovation, vulnerability, standing up for oneself, standing up for others, self -respect, curiosity, charity, humility, creativity.

Many people become so obsessed with being “right” about their life that they never end up actually living it.

是我執. 

Some of the most difficult and stressful moments of our lives also end up being the most formative and motivating.

有道理. 

While all of my experiences were exciting and great, few of them would have nay lasting significance.

If two people who are close are not able to hash out their differences openly and vocally, then the relationship is based on manipulation and misrepresentation, and it will slowly become toxic.

Without conflict, there can be no trust. Conflict exists to show us who is there for us unconditionally and who is just there for the benefits. No one trust a yes-man.

We are actually often happier with less. When we are overloaded with opportunities and options, we suffer from what psychologists refer to as the paradox of choice.

選擇困難因於此. 

In order to compensate for our fear of the inevitable loss of our physical self, we try to construct a conceptual self that will live forever. This is why people try so hard to put their names on buildings, on statues, on spines of books.

有對有不對. 

All the meaning in our life is shaped by this innate desire to never truly die.

Whether you are listening to Artistotle or the psychologists at Harvard or Jesus Christ or the goddamn Beatles, they all say that happiness comes from the same thing: caring about something greater than yourself, believing that you are a contributing component in some much larger entity, that your life is but a mere side process of some great unintelligible production.

總的來說, 看時覺得不錯. 看完又忘了八八九九. 是不是好書, 我也不知, 不過, 會看他另一本書.